“You can always tell who the real king is… they’re too busy building to bother tearing others down.”

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“The God Complex: When Self-Reflection is the One Thing Missing from Your Throne”

It’s fascinating how often the people who cry “God Complex!” are the very ones unknowingly wearing the crown themselves.

Lately, I’ve heard the term thrown my way — with the kind of conviction that tells me it wasn’t meant to spark conversation, but to shut it down. So, let’s talk about it. If I’m being accused of something, I’d like to at least make sure we’re all on the same page about what that actually means.

What is a God Complex, Really?

A true God Complex involves an inflated sense of self, an inability to acknowledge one’s own flaws, and the belief that they are always right — beyond reproach, above accountability. It shows up as dominance masked as leadership, control disguised as care, and manipulation dressed up as “help.”

It’s not confidence.
It’s not clarity.
It’s not standing up for yourself.
It’s not having standards.

It’s the absence of humility. The inability to say, “Maybe I got this one wrong.” It’s the refusal to apologize or consider another perspective because, well… why would a “god” need to?

Accountability vs. Arrogance

Here’s the thing: when someone sets boundaries, articulates their needs, or holds up a mirror — that’s not a god complex. That’s called emotional maturity. That’s called doing the work. Owning your story. Healing your wounds. And yes, it may feel intimidating to those who are still running from their own reflection.

You see, accountability is often mistaken for arrogance by people who have none.

It’s the easiest cop-out for someone who doesn’t want to face their own behavior: label the person challenging you as “difficult,” “too much,” or “thinking they’re better than everyone.” That way, they never have to look at the role they’re playing.

Convenient, isn’t it?

Projection: The Real Deity at Play

Psychology calls it projection: when a person attributes their own unacceptable qualities or feelings onto someone else. You might say things like,
“You always think you’re right,”
when deep down, it’s you who never listens.

Or perhaps you accuse someone of being controlling, while simultaneously dictating the terms of every conversation, deciding whose feelings matter and whose don’t.

It’s funny how the loudest accusations often say more about the accuser than the accused.

Spoiler Alert: I Don’t Have a God Complex — But I Do Have Standards

I don’t claim to be perfect. In fact, I pride myself on being deeply human. Flawed. Learning. Always open to feedback — but not to gaslighting…and there’s a difference.

I won’t apologize for having self-worth. For using my voice. For expecting mutual respect and effort. That’s not a complex; that’s self-respect.

I know it can feel easier to villainize someone who’s leveled up than to admit you’re still stuck in the same chapter — rereading the same excuses, blaming the same people.

The Irony of Misdiagnosis

Here’s the part that stings (if you’re ready for a little truth serum):
The person so quick to diagnose someone else with a god complex often does so because they can’t handle not being the center of the universe themselves.

The need to always be right. The inability to receive critique. The defensiveness when called out. The chronic “But what about me?” energy.
That’s not me. Boy, it sure does sound familiar.

A Little Reminder for the Reader Who Might Be Feeling This One Personally

I see the potential in people. I believe in redemption arcs. One thing I won’t do is water myself down to be palatable for someone who hasn’t done their own work.

When you dismiss, deflect, and blame — you’re not just pushing me away, you’re robbing yourself of someone extraordinary.

That’s the thing about crowns:
Some are earned through integrity.
Others are just imaginary, placed on the head by the person who fears they might otherwise be… ordinary.

You can call it whatever you want.
But at the end of the day — I’m still over here, healing, growing, thriving, and shining.
Whether you choose to see it or not doesn’t dim my light.
It just means you’re standing too far in the shadows.

With love, clarity, and just enough sass,
Christina Stuller
Life Coach • Counselor • Radical Accountability Advocate
healingmyfeelings.com | Info@healingmyfeelings.com

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If this hit home — good. Growth is uncomfortable. But here’s the thing:
I’m not here to tear anyone down. I’m here to elevate, empower, and embody the healing I offer to others every single day.

I won’t lower my standards to make someone else feel taller.

If you’re ready to explore what true self-awareness and accountability look like (and drop the blame game), I invite you to join me for a free 45-minute consultation. Let’s talk about healing, about truth, about how to reclaim your power — without stepping on anyone else to do it.

✨ Your healing doesn’t require an audience. But it does deserve your attention.
📩 Book your session today at www.healingmyfeelings.com

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