They say relationships are mirrors.That whatever hurt you was just showing you something about yourself. That the pain is the lesson. That if you look close enough at the glass, you'll find the flaw...
Category: Healing & Recovery
When Thinking Becomes a Way to Avoid Feeling
You can understand yourself completely and still be emotionally disconnected from yourself. We hear people say things like: “I need to get out of my head and into my heart.”“I want to lead with my heart.”“I’m trying to connect with my feelings.” Then something uncomfortable happens and, almost immediately, they begin analyzing it. They explain … Continue reading When Thinking Becomes a Way to Avoid Feeling
People Love Authenticity Until Someone Actually Practices It
Maybe the problem is not that someone is “too much.” Maybe their freedom is making us confront ourselves. I’ve been thinking a lot about the word authenticity, because people love that word until somebody actually practices it. We say we want people to be vulnerable. We say, “Speak your truth.” We say we want real … Continue reading People Love Authenticity Until Someone Actually Practices It
Beyond the “Cold” Exterior: 5 Surprising Truths About Dating a Dismissive Avoidant
If you spend any time in the corners of the internet dedicated to relationship advice, you’ve likely heard the same refrain regarding the Dismissive Avoidant (DA) attachment style: "Run." Social media often paints the DA as a cold, robotic partner who is fundamentally incapable of deep connection. It’s a narrative that leaves many of us … Continue reading Beyond the “Cold” Exterior: 5 Surprising Truths About Dating a Dismissive Avoidant
You Call Me Cold
You call me cold.You call me heartless.You call me detached. What you really mean is: "I'm upset you won't stay in my pain with me." There is a difference. You mistake boundaries for a lack of compassion.You mistake accountability for a lack of empathy.You mistake movement for avoidance. I don't measure compassion by how long … Continue reading You Call Me Cold
Strong Ego vs Weak Ego vs Big Ego: What Actually Separates Them
People talk about ego like it's automatically a bad thing.It's not.A strong ego means you can function in reality without collapsing under pressure or blowing yourself up into some inflated fantasy...
Stop Calling Everyone a Narcissist and Look in the Mirror
You know what's getting old? The way everyone suddenly became an armchair psychologist.Every ex is a narcissist. Every difficult person has a personality disorder. Every boundary violation gets a...
The Neurological Trap: Why You Can’t Just “Get Motivated” to Leave
I need to tell you something that's going to land hard. And I need you to sit with it instead of immediately deflecting.That relationship destroying you? The one you keep defending at dinner parties...
The Family Fracture No One Talks About: How Childhood Trauma Rewrites Adult Relationships
I've watched it happen hundreds of times.Someone finally builds the courage to set a boundary with their family. They rehearse the conversation. They prepare for pushback. They brace for guilt...
The Addiction You Don’t Call Addiction
I need to tell you something that might make you uncomfortable.The person who can't leave their toxic relationship? They're running the same neural pathways as someone shooting heroin in a back...