You can understand yourself completely and still be emotionally disconnected from yourself. We hear people say things like: “I need to get out of my head and into my heart.”“I want to lead with my heart.”“I’m trying to connect with my feelings.” Then something uncomfortable happens and, almost immediately, they begin analyzing it. They explain … Continue reading When Thinking Becomes a Way to Avoid Feeling
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People Love Authenticity Until Someone Actually Practices It
Maybe the problem is not that someone is “too much.” Maybe their freedom is making us confront ourselves. I’ve been thinking a lot about the word authenticity, because people love that word until somebody actually practices it. We say we want people to be vulnerable. We say, “Speak your truth.” We say we want real … Continue reading People Love Authenticity Until Someone Actually Practices It
You Call Me Cold
You call me cold.You call me heartless.You call me detached. What you really mean is: "I'm upset you won't stay in my pain with me." There is a difference. You mistake boundaries for a lack of compassion.You mistake accountability for a lack of empathy.You mistake movement for avoidance. I don't measure compassion by how long … Continue reading You Call Me Cold
5 Surprising Truths About Dating a Dismissive Avoidant
Beyond the "Cold" Exterior If you spend any time in the corners of the internet dedicated to relationship advice, you’ve likely heard the same refrain regarding the Dismissive Avoidant (DA) attachment style: "Run." Social media often paints the DA as a cold, robotic partner who is fundamentally incapable of deep connection. It’s a narrative that … Continue reading 5 Surprising Truths About Dating a Dismissive Avoidant
From Wounds to Wisdom: Crafting a Legacy of Light
Good Morning Before we begin, I want to share something deeply personal with you. It’s a letter I wrote to my son, Canon. It’s for him to read one day, when I’m no longer physically here. It begins… “My sweet Canon,There's no map for what I'm about to say because the path we've walked together … Continue reading From Wounds to Wisdom: Crafting a Legacy of Light
Fear
Fear is simply because you're not living with life; you are living in your mind. Your fear is always about what's going to happen next. That means your fear is always about that which does not exist. If your fear is about that which does not exist. If your fear is about the nonexistent, your … Continue reading Fear
Understanding Your Relationship with Yourself
I'm not sure if I've already posted this but I've been clearing out my writing folders and podcast scripts and didn't want this goody to go to waste. Today we’re diving into one of the most important, and yet most overlooked, relationships in our lives, the one we have with ourselves. Let me say this … Continue reading Understanding Your Relationship with Yourself
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When Hope Becomes an Addiction in Toxic Relationships
Hope is often seen as a virtue, a beacon of light that guides us through the darkest times. From childhood, we are taught that hope is always a good thing—that if we just believe hard enough, things will eventually get better. What happens when hope becomes an addiction—an anchor that keeps us tethered to toxic, … Continue reading When Hope Becomes an Addiction in Toxic Relationships
Breaking the Cycle – Why Love Addiction Isn’t Love
When people hear the term "love addiction," the immediate reaction is often confusion or even denial. After all, isn’t love supposed to feel all-consuming? Isn’t that rush part of the magic? The problem is, when that rush is rooted in trauma, chaos, or the desperate need for validation, it’s not love — it’s addiction.And it’s … Continue reading Breaking the Cycle – Why Love Addiction Isn’t Love