I spent years cataloging his toxicity.Every manipulation. Every lie. Every time he twisted my words until I questioned my own memory.I kept a mental inventory of all the ways he was the problem.Then...
Category: Thought Box
The Heartbreak You Don’t See Coming: When You Realize You Were Just Being Used
I need to tell you something that most people won't say out loud.There's a specific kind of heartbreak that doesn't announce itself with dramatic fights or explosive betrayals. It arrives quietly, in...
The Boundary Myth That Keeps You Trapped
You set a boundary. The response comes fast: "You're being selfish."And just like that, you're questioning yourself.But here's what's actually happening in that moment, what most people completely...
Stop Telling Trauma Survivors to “Let It Go”
I need to say something that's going to make some people uncomfortable.The healing culture we've built is gaslighting survivors.You've heard it before. Someone shares their experience with...
You’re Not Setting Boundaries, You’re Just Making Rules
You've heard it a thousand times. "I'm setting a boundary." It sounds healthy. Empowered. Self-aware.But here's what most people miss.Half the time, what you're calling a boundary is actually a rule...
You’re Not Attracting Unavailable People: You Are One
;When someone tells me they're ready for a real relationship but their dating history reads like a catalog of emotionally unavailable partners, they're not describing readiness.They're describing a...
The Darker Side of Things: Hellooooo Shaaddowww
Shadow Work! It's tough but absolutely necessary in order to grow and heal along this do I say it? ::coughjourneycough:: Those cliché terms we hear over and over can feel like nails on a chalkboard. Sometimes “journey” doesn’t match the chaos we crawled through. Sometimes it doesn't fit the version of ourselves who’s just trying … Continue reading The Darker Side of Things: Hellooooo Shaaddowww
Radical Confidence
Healing Through Self-Discovery and Progress
Progress not perfection is something I don't believe we remind ourselves of. We can easily look at a person and admire them, witness their strengths and weaknesses, and feel we can't ever be like them. I want to remind you, that's not true! Your story is someone else's survival guide.The voice in our head can … Continue reading Healing Through Self-Discovery and Progress
Rain Check
That's how I would describe my life. Rain Check I sometimes feel I received less than I deserved but more than I had asked for. It's a struggle. I don't know how others view themselves, but I like me. I love ME, to be honest, but it just takes one person to change the way … Continue reading Rain Check
