Everyone loves to talk about healing. But few people talk about what it really feels like to do it.
Healing isn’t just crystals, ceremonies, or self-care Sundays. Sometimes, it’s grief that shakes your bones. Sometimes, it’s screaming into a pillow. Sometimes, it’s confronting the ugliest parts of yourself: the jealous part, the vengeful part, the insecure part, and realizing they didn’t come from nowhere.
They were shaped by pain. Inherited from lineage. Forged in trauma. Pretending they don’t exist in the name of “love and light” is not healing. It’s hiding.
Love and Light Without Accountability is Avoidance
Let’s be clear: love and light are beautiful, but if they are used to suppress shadow, we’re no longer practicing spirituality — we’re bypassing reality.
Spiritual bypassing is when you use affirmations to skip grief.
It’s when you use forgiveness to avoid boundaries.
It’s when you meditate, but don’t apologize.
Alignment, on the other hand, is a practice of both: the divine and the difficult.
Shadow Work is Sacred Confrontation
Shadow work isn’t a trend. It’s spiritual warfare with your own unconscious.
It’s not about “fixing” your darkness. It’s about owning it.
When you deny your shadow, it runs the show from the backseat, but when you meet it, you can integrate it…And integration is where liberation begins.
Try this prompt:
“What shadow did I inherit… and what did I choose to carry?”
Write until your hand cramps.
Then read it back.
Sit in it.
This is your truth.
Healing is Not Aesthetic
Real healing is:
Saying, “I was wrong.”
Walking away even when you’re lonely.
Telling the truth, even if your voice shakes.
Feeling ugly emotions without shame.
It’s not Instagrammable. It’s internal. And it’s holy.
Your Spirit Deserves Truth, Not Performance
If you’ve been told you’re too intense, too deep, too much — good.
You were never meant to perform healing. You were meant to live it.
We don’t ascend by avoiding our humanity. We ascend by embracing it with accountability.
So go ahead. Get angry. Get real. Then get aligned.
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