Welcome. I’m Christina Stuller, PhD, a trauma-informed life coach. This blog is where I say the honest things about toxic relationships, trauma bonds, attachment, codependency, and shadow work. If you’re not sure where to begin, begin here.

If you know it’s hurting you but you can’t let go

• Why Your Brain Kept You in That Relationship (And How to Finally Break Free)
• The Neurological Trap: Why You Can’t Just “Get Motivated” to Leave
• The Limerence Trap: Why Your Brain Mistakes Obsession for Connection

If you’re trying to understand attachment styles

• 5 Surprising Truths About Dating a Dismissive Avoidant
• What Actually Happens When You Date a Dismissive Avoidant: The Timeline No One Tells You

If you’re ready to look at your own part

• You’re Not Attracting Unavailable People: You Are One
• Stop Calling Everyone a Narcissist and Look in the Mirror
• The Boundary Myth That Keeps You Trapped

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Take a next step

• Talk with me: Book a 15-minute Clarity Call (the call is complimentary; a $5 reservation fee holds your time).
• Start free: Download the free guide, From Surviving to Thriving, or join Anchored Connections, a free WhatsApp support group.
• Listen: Facing the Mirror, the podcast.
• Join the community: Kindred, a peer support community.
• See all the ways to work together: healingmyfeelings.com

Coaching and educational services are not psychotherapy, medical care, emergency care, or crisis support. If you are in immediate danger, contact local emergency services. In the United States, call or text 988.